I have continued reading the book I was telling you about. One point that the author brings out many times, and it is just common sense is we should always have a positive attitude. How we react is very important. We can voice our opinion if something is bothering us in a positive way, not with anger or rage. If we tell ourselves to not to get overly upset about stuff, then we will feel better. Anger and wrath are not God's way. It doesn't mean that we have to just sit back and take whatever it is that bothers us or if someone is mean to us. We can handle it in a positive way and tell ourselves it doesn't bother us ...that much. Another thing that the author brought up was the word Shalom , which means Peace. She should have an attitude of Shalom. In the way we react, in what we say, in how we feel.