Sorry, But I Have To Vent

Pondering this: Why dont people just go and get a job?  Instead of depending on others to house and feed them.  I know there are not many jobs out there, but make an attempt.  Flipping burgers is a job.   Instead they have sex out of marriage and have babies, but don't work.  Some expect others to just support them, others are doing the best they can and ask for nothing, and yet they suffer.  Having sex is for the those who are married. This is God's rule.   Some have sex with someone they just met.  Sex is for love.  How can a person know they love someone when they just met?   Some have sex just so they can be in a rich family.  They make excuses for their partner being a criminal.   Some are just young and in love.  Some are pot heads and drunks and then stop to become pregnant and think they are the best parent and know everything there is about parenting.  How can people survive without money?  How can they have babies with out money.  I know there are times that people need help from others but it should be temparary.  Not for the rest of their lives.  Sometimes a person needs government help.  Fine, but not forever!  I dont understand this partying all the time, sex without love and producing babies...and never working a job, just living off of someone else.  Children are supposed to grow up and go out on their own.  Not still living with their grandparents and parents and be totally dependant on them.  Then they wonder why their parents try to control them.  they are still under their parent's roof!!   I know sometimes this is the best for them.  If they are working then that makes it better.  They are doing the best they can until they can move out.  Praise the Lord for parents who do allow their adult children move in with them while they can get back on their feet.  As long as they are making an effort, all is fine.  But to allow your childs partner to live in the house too, makes no sense to me.  I can understand if the young people were married.   Sometimes it is best to not get married because there is a baby involved.  Having sex with someone you are not in love with is not right and then producing a baby out of this union is no reason to get married unless you love each other.  Kudos though for not aborting.  Abortion is the ultimate child abuse.   If you dont want a baby, then give it to someone who does.  To say you will abort again after having a baby just because you dont want a baby at that time, is insanity.  I fear for the child you have already.  If you would kill children, then whats to stop you from harming the one you have?    Some are so ready to become parents and some are not.  If married, then this shows you are ready for the responsibility of becoming a parent.  Dont have sex until you are married.  Your life will be so much better.  Well yeah..Babies are a joy and the best thing on earth!  It is hard to be a parent, but the love a child has for his parents is unconditional and so the parents need to have this overwhelming love for their child.  I just worry about people who are not ready to have  a baby, those who are druggies, and those who would have sex with anyone who lets them, and those who think everyone is going to house and feed them and they dont have to do a dang thing and be productive citizens.  I think sex before marriage is the root of all evil.  But you can be forgiven.  Jesus is the answer.  But you also have to change your ways and live to glorify and serve Jesus.  Yes Christians are to serve others too, but this is not just giving and giving to someone who is not doing anything for themselves.  Help them help themselves.  Remember the fish story in the Bible.  Teach a man to fish.  Dont fish and give him your fish.  Having him over for a fish meal is serving and loving.  But to just give away your hard earned fish everyday is not love.  Teaching him to fish is love.   I am done.