Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Whew What a Whirlwind

       Oh my!  It has been a while since I have written anything.  My life since February 15, 2013 has been one crisis/trial after another.  When it rains, it storms!!  Darkness.  Valleys.  BUT, there is always a rainbow after the storm.  The sun comes out eventually.  There is light at the end of the dark.  Trials make us grow.  I can only go up when times are down.  God is good and God is in control. 

       I am working on some topics that have come to my mind through all of this madness.  One being the difference between helping others as the Bible tells us to do.  This can also be know as Serving Others.
And Enabling. 

      On February 14, 2013, it was Valentines Day and I visited my daughter and her kids.  My daughter had a little party.  It was fun.  I had bought the kids  little gifts, which to this day are still sitting where the kids laid them down after opening the gifts. 

     On February 15, my daughter was kicked out of her home where she, her kids and husband resided with her in laws.  Her mother in law told her to LEAVE!!

      She was not allowed to come back for her things or to see her kids.  BUT, law enforcement said they could not just kick her out and keep her things hostage.  She has to have a 30 day notice. 

     A temporary verbal agreement was made as far as custody.  All went well until April 18, 2013.  When her husband attacked her and smashed the windshield of the van she was driving (which belonged to her brother)  She was arrested because her husband said she tried to run him over.  oh sure, she was trying to get a way from him, running for her life.  Locked herself in the van.  If he had gotten a hold of her, he may have done some serious damage.  He had choked her until she blacked out in the past.   But she was moving trying to get away at about 2 miles per hour, in a driveway!!  She did not knock him onto the van causing him to smash the windshield with his body. 

     So the court days began.  Many court visits.  She got temporary primary custody.  So the kids were with us in out little house.  She needed our help.

     Around the end of March, my husband hurt his arm/shoulder at work.  Pretty severely.    Dr visits and PT apts for a while.  Then they stopped.  Workman's comp was dragging their feet.  Payments were sent willy nilly.  We got an attorney.  We are still waiting for a Dr apt which should be on August 15th.  His last apt was June 3rd.  He is facing surgery and at least a year of recovery.  We will see what happens at the August 15th apt.  It is hard having my husband home 24/7. in Pain and in a grumpy mood. 

     My youngest suffered with boils for about two months until they got him on the right antibiotics.  He missed work and they were not very happy about it. 
 

    My son hit a deer, so his car is out of commission and the mechanic had it for three weeks and did nothing. 

     On July 28, my daughter was in a horrible car wreck.  Just her, no other cars involved.  She slammed int a tree.  She was protected by angels.  she could have been hurt so much more than she was.  Her car (which she had must bought a month ago) was totaled.  She missed a week of work.  She will have medical bills.  She doesn't have health insurance.  She was fined for the wreck.   She said she wasn't texting or on the phone.  I wonder. 

   The next day, the children started school.  Third and sixth grade.  They have never been to public school.  They were homeschooled. Or should I say "no Schooled"  Both are on a 1st or 2nd grade level in their education.  I am so worried about my grandson who is 12.  It was a very rough first week.  It is so hard for them.  They are having to handle a lot right now:  School, a bitter custody battle between their parents and their mom's wreck.  It has been emotional. 

   But it WILL  get better!!

     

    My diabetes is so out of control and I just keep gaining weight. 

    I have to drive everyone around...the kids, daughter, husband and son.

  I am so stressed.   But I am doing what I love.  Helping others. 
  My husband says I am enabling.  I don't think so.  So I am going to research what the Bible says.

I do have a family situation that is entirely enabling.  But I have detached from them and am letting them live as they want and reap the consequences of their behaviors.  I will write on this later. 


I am also going through some person trials.  People don't seem to want to listen to me talk.  I am quiet anyway, so when I say something, I want people to listen and to care what I have to say.  But it seems I am only to listen to them.  When I do talk, people cut me off and don't let me finish.  I am going to ponder on this. 

Well for now, I am going to stop.

May God Bless Your Day. 


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